LoveDoctor recently got a rather interesting query:
Can you fake being in a relationship with someone you don’t want to be with because you want to keep the other person happy? He loves me so much he doesn’t notice. I think he would eventually feel that I was faking, right? Sometimes you just know, even though no one says anything. I don’t want to hurt him, what should I do?
~ Can You Fake Being In A Relationship To Keep The Other Person Happy?
Well, well, well, Fake It - it seems like you need to have an honest conversation with your partner about what is really going on. Of course your partner loves you and might be willing to believe that you are being real – on the SURFACE – but there might be some small little voice in him that knows something isn’t right. Before he has to ask you, isn’t it time you took your concerns to him and has a real conversation about what is happening?
The more time you invest in this relationship and being fake – the more difficult for the other not to get hurt. Happiness is in being honest sooner rather than later and not letting your partner invest more time in such a relationship as most of us measure seriousness of any relationship by the time invested in it. We usually don’t spend time on things that are not worth it.
Ask yourself, how long will you be able to continue this? What about your happiness too? I understand it’s difficult to have this conversation – but you will save yourself a lot more heartache if you cut this sooner rather than later.
Hope you get closure soon,